This is rarely talked about. Infact noone wants to admit it. It’s far from postpartum depression. It is important to distinguish between a seasonal dislike for your child or a chronic one. So without getting into the details, let’s figure out what to do if you find yourself at this situation.
1. Be patient
Your child has a personality and you might not completely be fond of it. Try and be patient with your kid.
2. Look for the good
Although this might be a big challenge try and seek your child’s best characters and every time the feeling of dislike creeps in, remind yourself that the child has good in them .
3. Remember this is a new person
Take the same effort you take when meeting a new person. Take baby steps to trust and completely love your child like you would go about it with a new friend. Remembering to be knd.
4. Talk to someone
Talk to someone you trust and open up and express your feelings to them on how you feel. If you have no one you are comfortable telling try and seek counseling. This will help a lot .
5. Ask and accept help
Ask for help taking care of the child from family or get a baby sitter so you can take a break as motherhood could be expremely overwhelming. If someone iffers you help accept it, it’s not wrong to want a little alone time away from the kids.
6. Find new ways to be happy
You might feel this child has destroyed your lifestyle as he needs 24 hour round attention. Join a book club, invite some friends for lunch, try and find something fun for you to do. A happy mummy is a happy baby.
7. Don’t be ashamed
Many women around the world suffer in silence as it is almost unspoken of for a woman to dislike her child. Don’t be afraid to seek help as your sanity and that of your child is most important.
With love, Nelly