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Advice series : for the teen who feels they are not good enough


Ships do not sink because of the water around them. They sink because of the water that gets in them. Do not let whats happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.

LIN says ;

Although this type of thing is quite normal in teens, it would bother me a lot. I would explain that everyone is ‘good enough’. I would inquire as to why they feel that way. Perhaps it was a specific incident, or they are having problems in class. If I couldn’t get to the bottom of it, I would take the child to a therapist. I would not be able to allow the child to feel inferior.

MARCUS says ;

That depends. I was told for years that I was not good enough, not up to my potential. Years later I found out I have a cognitive missing piece that affects my ability to retain what I read. I took me years to get over my bad feelings and my anger for the way I was treated.

In the end, they didn’t know any better, and we all did the best we could.

If the child has been told these things, then they need a big dose of love and acceptance for being as they are.

On the other hand, don’t spoil the child. Set reasonable goals. They must learn to work at things. Don’t set the bar too high, but keep them working at things. That is the way of the world, and the sooner they start practicing, the better they will adjust to adult responsibilities.

TERESA says ;

They mustn’t think this way. We are all “good enough”. We are all here together. I would tell the child not to judge themselves so harshly. I would tell them, if there is something you don’t like about yourself, you can change it. I would tell them to get a book on self-esteem/confidence and to work on theirs. If the child is feeling this way because of how they’ve been raised or where they cam from, some things can’t be changed. But you can overcome anything. The human spirit is very strong. Put your head up and go conquer your world. Don’t forget to smile.

VIDA says ;

I would let them know it’s common for teenagers to feel that way as they are at a crossroads – no longer children, not yet adults. It’s completely normal and understandable for them to feel that way. I would tell them to just take it one day at a time. Keep taking steps and eventually they will get to where they want to be. And give that teen a big hug!

TIM says ;

Stop comparing yourself to others. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Struggle to improve daily. In this way, you will become good enough and more.

PRIYA says ;

Believe in your self because everyone has its own potential to achieve something big. it isn’t that your friend is good at this whereas you are not .everyone has a unique talent which waits to be raised and once it is raised you will surely see the after effects there are many great personalities which prove no one is useless in this world who despite of all odds are shining like the sun. the greatest example is Stephen hawking he is totally dependent on his wheel chair but see him. He is doing wonders .


You ARE good enough.

A lot of teenagers feel this way, I felt that way at certain points during my teenage years. I imagine it’s much harder these days with so much focus on social media, so many people portray perfect lives and perfect pictures.

No one’s life is perfect, most times the people trying to portray the perfect lives, whether at school or on social media, are actually worried and insecure themselves, they just don’t dare admit it.

The best advice I can give you is to focus on school, find hobbies that you enjoy, and make friends with people who really care about you and aren’t just interested in a popularity contest.

The teen years are hard because of hormones and drama, but you’ll get through it. Just remember that you’re worth it – you deserve a happy life just as much as anyone else does. Later on in life, middle school and high school will feel so far away. The things you’re worrying about now – will feel so insignificant in 5–10 years.

Just keep trying and never give up. 🙂

What advice would you give a teenager or child who feels they are not good enough?

With love, Nelly.



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2 replies

  1. Great read! We have a teenage son who, despite being brilliant at many things, feels he has to be perfect and, as a result, often feels inadequate. Thanks for the insight!

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